It can happen to everyone at any time between our 30s and our 60s. It can attack us out of the blue or grow slowly inside of us. But in the end its shadow casts a darkness on everything that we used to love and accept, making us feel unsatisfied, stuck and restless. Ok, this may sound a bit dramatic, since I am not talking about a physical illness or an audit by the IRS. However, most men and women struggle at some point with the fact, that their lives may be already half over. In the extreme this realization can develop into a full blown mid-life crisis. More commonly though, people take an inventory of what they have accomplished and experienced so far, and just wonder “Is that it?” I probably went already through three of those phases in my life. As a result I changed my careers and moved to different countries twice. While each time my life improved significantly, I don’t believe that making radical changes is the only answer to the “now what?” question.
As we go through the earlier phases of our lives – from being completely powerless and dependent munchkins, to figuring out how to walk, talk and open the refrigerator ourselves, to becoming all-knowing, looks-obsessed teenage-brats, to starting a career, a family and a retirement plan – most of our focus and energies are externally directed. Carl Jung called these first phases the Athlete Stage and the Warrior Stage. According to Jung, the second half of our lives is defined by the Statement Stage and the Stage of the Spirit. During the Statement Stage we realize, that what we have chased after so far, money, success, recognition and security, doesn’t completely fulfill us. We are starting to look for more meaningful ways to find happiness, such as serving others and making a difference in the world. This stage is followed by the Stage of the Spirit, which Jung describes as the time in our lives, when we turn inwards and search for who we truly are. We then realize that we are more than our body, our possessions and our relationships and may come to the understanding that we are spiritual beings having a human experience. Lao Tzu described this state of being “Can you step back from your own mind and thus understand all things? Giving birth and nourishing, having without possessing, acting with no expectations, leading and not trying to control: this is the supreme virtue.”
So there is actually a lot to look forward to during the second half of our lives. To help us to find our Midlife Mojo, I have invited the Unstoppable Frankie Picasso to my next Empowerment Radio Show. Frankie Picasso is the founder of The Good Radio Network, radio host, author, artist and human rights activist, who specializes in the impossible.
Here is a message from Frankie to you: “Midlife Mojo is about Change, and whether this manifests physically, emotionally or spiritually for you, it is important for you to realize that you are always in control, at the helm so to speak, and the captain of your own ship. What does this really mean? It means that you get to decide how you are going to live out the next stage of your life, or say the next 30 or so years! This choice is Yours, and always has been, but what you may have been missing are concrete tools to assist and support you in making the changes you know are necessary for your well-being. One you have those tools and insights, you will be choosing, instead of allowing or just following along. This is what you were always meant to do. You are going to stop living in default and start taking responsibility for your life, for this is where real power comes from. When you are responsible, you don’t need to fear anything or hide from anyone. I know that this resonates with you and that you can feel it is true. It is my deepest wish that you will follow the path to where your happiness lies, and that you will live out the rest of your life in joy. It is down this road that you will find your purpose. You will always know that you have chosen well if you continue to feel happiness.”
Learn how to How to Get through the Midlife Crisis and Emerge as Your True Self.